Sunday at RSVP Lagos.

One of my favorite places to eat is RSVP Lagos, the artsy vibe gets me. I go there for a quick ‘pick me up’.


Burna Boy.

My mate Osarumen asked me to write a piece on Burna Boy for his docuseries, I wrote this yesterday at 5:12am.

The other day I was in a meeting room with some ‘higher ups’ and as usual they’ll see a young lady and try to make you feel like you’re just there as a prop or something beautiful to look at.

Normally I’ll just be quiet, I won’t speak unless I am spoken to. I hate to have to ‘prove’ myself to ANYBODY because at the end of the day, no one can take away your blessing, skill set or destiny.

Then the conversation went ‘millennial’ and they started talking about Burna Boy.

I have been a fan of Burna Boy since the days he was accused of stabbing a 15 year old in the UK (allegedly) and when he used to run around with the yellow bone South African rapper, AKA.

So the conversation went to how these older men felt like his mom was a huge impact in his rejuvenation.

I didn’t talk I just listened.

I see all my friends in Nigeria and in the diaspora excited for Burna and his success.

Music has always been my escape. I listen to everything that’s good. I could take you on, any genre. Even Taylor Swift.

Burna Boy.

If he is with Steff. I’ll tell her to keep him. That’s a keeper. Hands down. There is NOTHING like a man you can learn from.

It’s WAY more than his success, it’s his ambience, Burna is a man that has always been about that life.

Burna Boy has always been Burna Boy. His music has always been a Representation of his personality traits and he reminds me so much of a young Kanye West.

Everyone compares him to Fela but I’ll chill.

Fela is like Shea butter. There’s no substitute to Shea butter… Yet.

Burna Boy is Burna Boy.

I haven’t fully gone through the African Giant album yet because I get overwhelmed and it has nothing to do with being female it’s just so unbelievably overwhelming that there’s a caliber of male species that has his train of thought in 2019.

He told Coachella to put his name in Capital letters. He made a statement about this and made them know he was unhappy with their logic.

Sentimental? Not really.

I come from a school of thought where I believe that it’s important to take a stand. Always. You won’t understand it till you work with expatriates in Lagos and they have a different toilet for the Nigerian staff or they tell you they (expatriates) can’t drink water from the same dispenser as the Nigerian staff and your HR (a fellow Nigerian) sees nothing wrong with it.

I remember 2 years ago, At 23 I got a job offer and I told the HR I wanted to earn way more money because I was a value added to the company. They were offering a Norwegian lady double of what I asked for.

I want everyone to have that Burna Boy effect.

You’re a value added.

You’re not just another black skinned monkey for a hashtag.

I’m in a room full of multi millionaires and they’re telling me about Burna Boy.

White supremacy is not just about this and that, it’s about knowing you’re an African Giant, you’re automatically a ‘threat’ to them even if you’re out here and winning. It’s like meeting a girl with black lips you assume she’s a smoker, or meeting a girl with knuckles, you assume she’s bleaching.

I read somewhere that Nigerians are the most hard working ethnic group.

Best believe. We have been on.

I’m not surprised by Burna Boy’s success. It’s about time and I wish everyone will tap into their innermost selves and do and be more.

They tell you No, ask them WHY?

Say no to slavery mentality.

We are Africans and we are the originals. They let us think they’re doing us favors but we are history and without us there is no them.

The only advantage they had was MONEY and more resources, I say more because we had the resources too. Maybe not in the same capacity, but they had the money to grow and be bigger, so they came here and used their affiliations and knowledge. The irony is to date MONEY still has that same power on us. Like Burna Boy said this is a story for another day.

If they are Adam, we are Eve. God gave Adam ‘everything’ and said he was missing something fundamental, Eve. People don’t understand how significant that is. The creation of Eve after all He did is so deep and resonates to the interpretation of society right now.

Being black is WAY more than nappy hair, I saw the H&M advert with the black kid and I feel a way because it’s okay to ask why the black kid’s hair wasn’t styled properly. Why wasn’t it oiled?

In all honesty which AFRICAN mother will allow her kid go out like that? African women will be broke with bad credits but will oil and perfume their kids when they are expecting visitors talk more of appearing on an ad for H&M.

I need us to be wise enough to change the narrative, who cares about edges and hair texture? They make us out to be shallow minded and mundane monkeys because we give 100% energy to ‘irrelevant things’ and not the bigger picture.

My takeaway from Burna Boy is simple, being African and a Nigerian is his core value, he is enriched with the doctrines of submission and slavery mentality. He brought his seat to the table everywhere he went because they expected him to stand or wait outside so he always came prepared.

P.S. – Please read your books, research and educate your mind. I haven’t finished listening to the album (African Giant) yet but I’m on Track 14 and so far I can tell he educated his mind before he put out this body of work.

When I am Sad… I write.


Hip hop made me. I don’t say this to sound cool or sound like a real one. It’s the truth.

Growing up I listened to a lot of Rap music and Country music.

These are the deepest genres of music in my opinion. They are rhythmic and they tell a story.

The past couple of weeks have been very emotional for me, I have gone through a shift with my emotions and a new start that I didn’t want but It happened and I’m moving forward because moving backwards is not the move.

It’s hard to start again, with your career, your goals, your relationships. It’s hard.

I found my light at the end of the tunnel so when it gets hard I review what my light is and I forge ahead.

It is not easy at all but it’s my affirmation.

The only way to go is up, and it might not be progress or change.

Up can be a refresh.

It doesn’t change the layout of your life but it removes the errors or mistakes you made and gives you a fresh sheet to start again.

That’s what I’m doing right now.

I am clicking the refresh button. It’s not the easiest thing but I know I have the keys. Literally.

So I hit refresh and I am reaffirming my goals, my career, my love life and my choices.

I hit refresh.

I have time.

I have a blank sheet. I am correcting my typos and I am calm.

When I am sad, I write.

This time I am remaking my story.

Less woes and more wins.

Ibukun Donald is a Comic Book!

We are so excited to announce the comic book adaptation of IBUKUN DONALD.

If you know me, you’ll know I am such a nerd and I cherish my stack of comic books. When I started this journey I wanted to make it as ME as possible but the incentive and takeaway was to get people to actually read this book and not just clout chase. 👀

It’s back to school time and it’s a YA Novel (Young Adults and Teenagers Novel) it is only right we make a comic book adaptation so everyone can have that in between classes, break ups, 😩 and jobs read.

More details to follow.

I am thinking a comic con spin book reading. Like I said at the beginning of this post the incentive is to get people to read more.

Ibukun Donald is young, beautiful. Smart and lost in love. She’s trying to find a balance in this thing called life. Her story will forever be my favorite, so I’m trying to do everything I love with this protagonist.

Like Meg said, it’s about to be a #HotGirlSemester for real.

Details for ebook and book readings will be sent out respectively.

Shop for ebook here.

Love Always,

Oghomwen Toni-Osagie.

My Interview with Vimbai Mutinhiri on NewsCentralTv, talking about my New Novel; IBUKUN DONALD.

Had a good chat with Vimbai Mutinhiri about the story behind my book and my take on the Yoruba culture.

It hasn’t aired yet, I am excited for everyone to see it.

We talked a lot about the Yoruba culture, broken homes the after effect it might have on the Nigerian child.

We also made some good points on living in Lagos and the ‘turn up life’ phenomenon.

I’ll keep you posted when it airs.

Love Always,


Dear Struggle…

Dear Struggle,

Hey… it’s me again.

I don’t like you very much but you always seem to interfere in my life. I need that to stop.

I have bills. Real life bills.

I want to offset these bills. We don’t need you. Honestly we don’t.

There’s this girl I like, she’s high maintenance and she likes me too. I want to take her to The George and buy her some breakfast just because.

There’s this guy I like I want Mai Atafo to come by his house after Sunday service to fit him for a tuxedo.

I have kids. It’s almost the end of the summer and school fees is here.

Dear struggle I can’t do these things if you’re in my life.

My wife wants a hot girl summer but I have just one comma in my utility account. I want 2… or 3 commas in my account.

I want money.

Leave me alone struggle.

My kids want Disneyland Singapore.

Dear struggle, you’re making me nervous.

Dear Struggle, I work too hard to be broke.

A wise man once said opposites attract… so am I doing this thing wrong? Do I need to chill? Be a bum? so you leave me?

Dear Struggle, I want tea parties with the other moms at my kids schools. I want my kids to live life.

Dear struggle I want to chop life.

I can’t chop life if you’re here.

I want to live my best life… again, I can’t do that if you’re here.

Dear Struggle, I want my waist to be 21 when I’m 50.

Broke people aren’t ever really peng or buff… I’m too broke to be fit.

What I look like being hungry and fit?!?!

Dear struggle, like SAINt JHN said, I want to be way too lit to be humble. I’m thinking parties in The South of France.

Dear Struggle, I know you blame me for being a small girl without a Big God, but it’s Gucci.

There’s no pun intended in that statement. None at all.

I want to tell my mates there’s nothing in flying Private, I ride choppers and PJs like it’s Uber.

Go disturb my neighbors, I’m good.

Dear struggle, please block me.

My Fête to Griots and Bards.

Yesterday I saw a part of Lagos I had never seen in my 25years here.

I got introduced to a group of artsy people alike and it was so original and undiluted.

If you know me you’ll know this is my vibe, I always told my family how I would love to move to Brooklyn ( because all my favorite poets live there) Get a one bed space, write my poetry, link up with Shihan and make spoken words or link up with Bassey ikpi and just write about life.

I called @bigfootinyourface and told him I wanted to belong to a community because I was feeling lost with my writings, he made some magic and he didn’t use fruity loops 💀

It just makes me really happy to be doing what gives me joy, I read in YOU version that Joy is everlasting and happiness is fleeting. I’m not doing this full time yet,

but ‘chill it will come to pass in Gods timing’( MI Abaga voice)

Thank you to everyone that came to my book launch, thank you for buying my stuff and still paying attention.

I’m not Braille, you don’t have to touch me to know me. (This has been my experience in the corporate 9-5 life)

This is everything to me. Everything. I want to write.


I hope I always find time and not procrastinate. Yesterday was a dream come true and I can’t wait for more opportunities.

Love Always,

Oghomwen Toni-Osagie.